The Spirit of Infatuation

Indicators of Infatuation :

- Urgency: the need for the person’s presence, or for a relationship to be brought to fruition ASAP
- Lack of Self Control: the inability to refrain from texting, calling, or spending time with the person, sometimes resulting in a lack of physical self-control
- Immaturity: Infatuation is shortsighted and concentrates only on the short-term pleasure of the relationship without thinking about long-term consequences/convictions

Are your fantasies really yours, or are they just a projection of your flesh?

The solution:

Love looks at a person’s character, chooses trust, and then chooses commitment. And it makes that choice over and over again, every day, for the rest of its life.

Infatuation is primarily feeling-based. It is an emotional high. While we may try to be completely honest both with ourselves and in our view of the other person, the fact remains that it takes time to truly know someone’s character and love them by God’s definition of love.


Jeremiah 18:1-6 (NKJV) 1 The word which came to Jeremiah from the LORD: 2 “Arise and go down to the potter’s house, and there I will cause you to hear My words.” 3 Then I went down to the potter’s house, and there he was, making something at the wheel. 4 And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter; so he made it again into another vessel, as it seemed good to the potter to make. 5 Then the word of the LORD came to me, saying: 6 “O house of Israel, can I not do with you as this potter?” says the LORD. “Look, as the clay [is] in the potter’s hand, so [are] you in My hand, O house of Israel!

True love is a molding process, and it is shaping a person to reflect the nature of the Lord. The imagery of a potter shaping clay illustrates God's sovereignty over His people. The passage describes how the potter molds and remolds the clay to create a vessel that is pleasing to him, demonstrating God's power to shape and transform lives according to His will.

This concept connects to the idea that true love is a molding process in the following ways:

1. Love Requires Patience and Refinement—Just as the potter continuously works the clay, true love is not just about accepting someone as they are but also about encouraging growth and transformation into their best self.

2. Shaping Through Challenges—The potter reshapes the clay when it is marred, similar to how love corrects, teaches, and refines. True love does not leave a person in their brokenness but helps them become a reflection of God’s nature.

3. Divine Purpose in Love—Just as God, the ultimate potter, has a vision for each vessel, true love sees beyond imperfections and works to bring out the potential that aligns with God’s character.

4. Yielding to the Process—The clay must be pliable in the potter’s hands for it to be shaped properly. In love, a person must be willing to be molded—whether in a relationship or in their personal spiritual growth.

1 Cor. 13:
Love is patient (v. 4)
Love is secure (not envious, not rude) (v. 5)
Love rejoices in righteousness (not in immorality) (v. 6)
Love bears, believes, hopes, endures (all of which take time) (v.7)

You don’t “fall” into patience, kindness, security, or righteousness. These virtues are the product of a choice to choose love: love for God and the people around us. A selfless person is demonstrated by doing what is BEST for the other person, no matter how uncomfortable it may be. Because of this, love contains emotion, but it is not based on emotion.